We’ve all seen on Instagram and TikTok circling around about “Lucky Girl Syndrome ” and at first I was skeptical about this but as I read more into it, I realized that unintentionally I was doing this but never had a name for it.
What is Lucky Girl Syndrome?
First let’s start out with what “Lucky Girl Syndrome” is:
Happiful.com describes Lucky Girl Syndrome as “it uses affirmations (positive statements that impact how we think and behave) to influence what our minds focus on and to refocus on positive self-talk over negative.”
Basically it’s positive affirmations and manifestations that are more directed at how are you going to be in the future. You are describing exactly what you want and how it’s all going to work out for the best. You say what you hope life will be.
I started saying/reading daily affirmations last year and there definitely has been a shift in thinking. This is an interesting practice and I am one for letting the universe guide you but you can’t force it.
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How has this worked for me?
Okay now that we know what LGS is, let’s see how it played out in my life without me realizing it. I manifested these things over the last 5 years without intentionally knowing what it was called. I just thought I was growing and my mindset changed.
These manifestations came to with the type of ring I wore on my left hand. Let’s see what happened:
2018-2019
Engagement Ring
At this time, the engagement ring was a HUGE deal for me yet it didn’t feel real (as in I couldn’t believe that I was engaged to be married) If I am being honest, it was a black cloud that I felt like surrounded me. I was sicker than I had ever been and I was not excited about pretty much anything related to the wedding.
2019
Rubber Ring
Once my engagement ended, that cloud moved away and I started to wear this rubber ring I had bought to wear at the gym. It was a placeholder until I figured out what I was going to wear on my left hand.
2020
Beautifully Broken
Then the pandemic hit and like a lot of you, I was struggling with the pandemic and the unknown. I didn’t think too highly of myself and I felt like that is exactly what I was- Broken. I thought the mess was pretty and poetic at the time. I am real and not perfect and its okay to be broken.
I wore this ring ALL THE TIME and I kept telling myself I was broken and I wasn’t good enough for a relationship that I truly deserved.
2021
Thin Band
I added this to the ‘broken’ ring which at this point had lost a stone or two and was beginning to tarnish, I didn’t care, I just continued to wear and think I was broken. The thin band looked much nicer online and when it arrived, it was nothing like it had seemed but I had settled because at that point I thought it was good enough.
My self esteem was improving slightly and I was speaking up a little bit more for what I want but it still wasn’t the best. I worked through things and while the pandemic was still going on, I tried my hardest. Just like with the thin band, I settled in my dating life because I didn’t think I deserved anything more. I dreamt about more but I didn’t have to oomph to go for it. I was happy to have something even though it was not the best for me.
2022
Sparkly infinity band
2022 came and little by little I started speaking up more, gaining more and more confidence in myself and by the fall of 2022, I declared I entered my “villain era.” I think after so long, I finally realized I deserved more and I ended a relationship that had been in for over a year. It was hard but I knew it was for the best.
Ending that relationship, ended up being a turning point for me. I took a look at those two rings-broken and tarnished rings on my left hand and said to myself, I need an upgrade. I had added a sparkly infinity band on my Amazon wishlist a while ago. I finally decided to purchase it.
It arrived and I placed in on my finger and things seemed to get better and better. Things that I didn’t think would ever happen, happened and I had a different outlook on life. I was more confident and more sure of myself than I had ever been before. I was a breath of fresh air for me. This sparkly infinity band on my finger makes me so happy every time I look at it. I am finally at a place in my life where I am excited for the future and all the good that is to come.
The rings were a direct representation how I looked and myself and treated myself. I wore each ring for a specific reason and while when I was in the thick of it, this never occurred to me that I saw my self as broken or not worthy until very recently.
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NEGATIVTY
I know there has been backlash on this because it could be toxic positivity or unrealistic thinking. I also could see how if you are leaning into letting the universe do its thing, that you might become complacent and not want to put in the work anymore.
I have also seen some articles about how this is just another way of regurgitating “The Laws of Attraction” which I can totally understand and see but its 2023, there is always a new spin on something old.
Harper’s Bazaar points out that if you are focusing only on the things you want, you could be essentially avoiding the negativity and while for the short term that might work BUT in the long term, it might be detrimental. You need to take the good and the bad.
With everything you find online, you have to take it with a grain of salt. Life can work in mysterious ways and perhaps positive thinking can be good but you also have to be realistic and grounded. It’s a delicate balance.
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I found some articles on Lucky Girl Syndrome and I found them interesting.
The Every Girl | Happiful | Harper’s Bazaar
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This was a fun post to write and seeing how manifestations worked in my life. I am happy to share my experience; Perhaps it was pure coincidence, but I truly believe that the rings I wore, directly affected me.
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What you do you think about Lucky Girl Syndrome- is it fake or real?
[[Here’s the thing about luck…. you don’t know if it’s good or bad until you have some perspective- Alice Hoffman]]
